Red flags on dating apps (inspired by Johnny dumb, trifling face on MAFS last night)
Bao deserves so much better and I hope his family is absolutely embarrassed by his behavior
Today’s article is not specifically about Married at First Sight but it’s inspired by all the greasy-footed nonsense that I’ve seen on this show. So I’m going to make a list of all the red flags I have experienced or never want to experience in dating. The items on this list are non-starters. If I experienced one of these things then there will not be a second date (or potentially even a first one). I will not be taking any questions but I do encourage you to add items to this list in the comments section.
Let’s go:
RED FLAGS ON A DATING PROFILE:
If all of his pictures are in groups
If he has memes on his profile
If he says be only dates (insert race here) girls
If looks unshowered in his pictures
If he bites his lips in a picture or video
If all of his pictures are of him looking moody and grumpy AF
If all of his pictures have a filter
If he does not include his profession on his profile
If he has a picture with his ex on his profile
If I see his feet anywhere on his profile
If he only has white friends in all his friendship pictures
If he’s a man of color and he only has white women in his group pictures
If he says he is a “sapiosexual” or “only talks to intelligent women”
He mentions that he likes anime multiple times
If he’s competitive about “everything”
If he responds to all his prompts with the word “tacos” (or literally any other singular word)
RED FLAGS WHILE TALKING TO HIM or ON A FIRST DATE
You find out that he lied on his profile to convince you to met him
He insults you as “humor”
He belittles your career, hobbies, experiences, etc.
If he wears a white shirt with pit stains
He talks about sex way too early in getting to know him
He does not honor your boundaries
He insists on having the first date at his home
He doesn’t pay on the first date
He wears sandals on the first date and we’re not on the beach
He tries to dap me while saying hello
If he loves Korra more than Avatar the Last Airbender
He talks negatively about dark skinned women
He talks negatively about queer people
He’s not nice to waiters or people in the service industry
He tries to initiate physical intimacy before I’m comfortable (i.e. hand holding, kissing, etc.)
He smells like old sweat
He looks nothing like his profile pictures
His profile pictures are from when he was younger
He talks extensively about his ex
He doesn’t understand any of my Spongebob references
He calls me “bruh”
He expects me to pay for his anything
He encourages “pick me” behavior
He expects “wife” perks in an “I’m dating you” situation
If he’s a serial monogomist
If he just got out of his last relationship way too recently
If I see a condom in his pocket or wallet
He refers to women as “females”
RED FLAGS FOR IF HE MAY BE A DECENT HUMAN BEING BUT HE’S NOT RIGHT FOR ME
When asked “what are you looking for?” he responds with “I don’t know”
He says he does not want a relationship
He says he’ll “know it when he knows it”
He leaves me feeling confused about where I stand with him
He wants me to talk to him all day, everyday
He doesn’t have a solid friend group
He doesn’t prioritize his time with me
I don’t feel treasured and secure
That’s all I got for now but I’m very curious what are some red flags for you all (all genders included!)
Warning though, straight men, don’t be a problem on my blog.
Also there will be no wine update this week for the paid subscriber. I’m giving my liver a break. But I’ll be back with 2 recommendations next week, I promise!!